I used to think...Skelton shift
I used to think...
I used to think that people who had an affair were the worst people in the world...and now I see how easy it is to get to that point.
I used to think mom's who left their kids were the worst people in the world...until I had 2 kids in less than a year, post-partum, and depression...and now I can relate a little to how they must have felt.
I used to think people who ate lunch at business meetings had the worst etiquette...until I saw a guy trying to cram toastmasters into his lunch hour, then I thought it was a great idea to multi task
I used to think mom's that "let" their kids act a fool in public were the worst people in the world...until I became a mom...now I'm sorry I judged so harshly.
I used to think people that did drugs were right up there with Satan...until I had a hole so big in my heart that the only thing I could fill it with was drugs.
I used to think people who stole things were evil..until I stole cereal from my own sister to feed my kids because they were starving.
I used to think porn was the worst thing In the world...until I realized I was having sex for money...to make ends meet.
I used to think working mom's were annoying...until I tried to work a job and have a family
I used to think soldiers families complained to much and had it easy...until I became a soldiers wife.
I,used to think people who had abortions were going right to hell...until I had to choose between my life and theirs?
I used to think having a baby was the worst pain in the world...until I had to poop after coming home.
I used to think people who had tatoos were messed up in the head....until I went to the tatoo artist and he talked me out of getting a tatoo on my hand.
I used to think church was full of hypocrites...until the day I left...and realized I was judging the judgers so I was no different.
I used to think all the books that were written were true..until I was like 20 wow..
I used to think Amber was the same color as maroon.
I used to think that parents were idiots...until I had kids...sorry mom
I used to think divorce was the worst thing that could happen...
Then I thought losing a house was the worst thing that could happen...
Then I thought being 27 and being married 4 times was the worst thing...(i just love weddings!)
I used to think Moving 34 times in 33 years...was the worst, until I realized all the amazing people i met along the way
Then I thought that if someone found out I had done all these horrible things I have done would be the worst thing that could happen...until the day I told someone and they said hey...I have been through that too- maybe we could help each other.
I went into my closet and got a Skelton out... and said "hey! Maybe this should be inside of me and be my strength instead of hiding it in the closet making me weak!"
Every "wrong" move. Every "dumb" decision put in a place where I could,meet the most amazing people. And now I know what it feels like to think dying is the best decision. Because I've been there.
So if you have been there. You're not alone. Don't hide it. Get your Skelton out of your closet and use it to free others...
I can't help someone who has lost a brother to suicide...like you can.
I can't help someone who has lost as spouse to cancer...like you can.
I can't help someone who has moved across the country to go to school...like you can.
I can't help a mom with 5 kids...like you can.
I can't help someone in bed rest...like you can.
I can't help someone who has never been through anything like this...like you can.
I can't help someone who husband has cancer...like you can.
Because you have been there and you know what it feels like. You know what helps, you know what hurts. You know what could easily be done to make someone's burden light...because you have been there.
We all have different things we gotta go through, who cares if life or love put them in our path..or if it was our own dumb choices that did...it doesn't matter
What matters is the good you do with it now...that is what matters...not hiding it, not minimizing it...not acting like it didn't happen..life is to short.
Make a shift list... (all the things you have been through/done/etc)
Then do a list flip and turn every item on there into a way to help someone. The people you meet come into our lives for a reason...Maybe it's for you, maybe it's for them...it doesn't matter...just notice and be aware and do good.
It's not 1910 anymore. Real shi* is going on. The world needs compassion and kindness, and YOU have your list of specific people you can help...because they are going through now,what you have already gone through...
Life is to short. To short. Figure it out and then help others along your way...